UNDERSTANDING SEX MYSTERY

CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE

Globally, marriage is used to solve the enormous cases of sexual immoralities, or the abuse and misuse of sex among teens, youths and adults who naturally in dare desire for pleasures depend on over sexual relationships to be emotionally and socially healthy. All beasts suffer a great natural feeling of sex, secreted by the sex gland when some others are acting on their drives in reality or in a motion and still object, or in a fantasy, or in a romantic dream, or whatnot. Most times, the gland sends the feelings by visually arousing objects which is contacted by sights. However, this great feeling which has turned most teen and youths against their parents and against the standards of God's Church can only be controlled by marriage however. All that the youths border about today is sexual relationships and immoralities which most of the traditional mandates of their forefathers have encouraged. Human animals suffer natural passions and their customs and traditions are made to promote sexual immortality when the people of the lands cannot meet the requirements of marriages according to their traditions. What then will they do who believe that they haven't come of age to be married but suffer desires? Can they have sex outside godly principles provided by the Apostles? Can there be sex without Marriage; hence sex is the reason for marriage? There is no definition of sex without Marriage; there's no definition of marriage without sex; so, when we discuss marriage as Saints, we discuss sex—"if they cannot abstain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn." (1Cor.7:9). What if some who cannot abstain from sex cannot marry as well, what will they do who've no money to go into marriage? Is the Christian marriage free? It really sounds so! How will the brother cope with the sister after both are joined for free? What are the requirements for Christian marriage? Is it sinful to burn with sexual feelings? We've seen that Saints, the redeemed suffer an inevitable sexual desire which is common to all beast. The only solution for sexual abuses and misuse because of burning is to jump into marriage where such burning sensation is satisfied. It means that there's no sex without marriage and there's no marriage without sex; so, is the act of sex marriage?—"What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh." (1Co.6:16). This is the marriage mystery hidden away from all lands on Earth. What makes the two married is sex! This was illustrated using a prostitute and her client. How can the client of a cheap woman be married to her when he only paid for sex to satisfy his desire? We want to tackle sexual immoralities, not just reproduction. I mean that marriage is not all about having children; but all about modesty. We've seen that marriage solely depends on sexual relationship between a male and a female, and sex makes marriage. So, what age is the Apostolic age of consent of both getting involved? How is the Christian marriage conducted in the Apostolic times?—"for I have betrothed you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ." (2Cor.11:2)

THREE ARE INVOLVED IN A MARRIAGE:

The physicality of the marriage process was used to liken the spirituality—in a way of using the physical to explain spiritual reality. The husband being physical, is used to represent the spiritual person of Yeshua. There's one who betroths; there's another who's betrothed, and there's is another who's betrothed to. There are just three persons in marriage—the girl's father, the girl and her husband to be. Paul placed himself as our father in the Gospel; through his Gospel we're betrothed to Yeshua. Physically, as long as she's a virgin, she's not a wife; though having been engaged to a man. There's a difference between a wife and a virgin. The fact is that Anna only became a virgin without a husband. She became a wife when she lost her virginity in her youth. She who's still a virgin cannot be said to be married but engaged; likewise, she who's not a virgin cannot be said to be single. The doctrine of the early Church revealed by Apostle Paul remains the doctrine of the true Church today. Hence a child of seven years can be crowned king of Israel, that age is the legal age of engagement—since the spiritual agrees with me that seven is perfect. This is because without engagement there's no marriage. Engagement lasts as long as the girl has not reached puberty. The number seven (7) is traditionally the Jewish maximum, or extreme number. The age of Betrothal Relationship cannot exceed seven years just as the days cannot exceed seven days; if a boy of seven years old can be crowned king of Israel, a girl of seven years old can be betrothed to him.

PAUL PREACHED BETROTHAL RELATIONSHIP WITH COPULATORY MARRIAGE

"But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry." (1Cor.7:36)

EXPLANATION:

"Any man" means everyman who in this life wants to get married. "His virgin" is in possessive form of a pronoun—meaning everyman has his own virgin. "If she pass the flower of her age," clearly defines puberty (the time of life when sex glands become newly functional). "Let him do what he will, he sinneth not:" means to have sex with her; it's not sin. The conclusion of this act that's not sin is marriage.

QUESTIONS:

What's not sin—is it not sex in betrothal relationship?

At what age can a girl be betrothed to a man?

What does it mean for a man to think that he behaves himself improperly towards his virgin?

When usually does a girl pass the flower of her age?

When she passes the flower of her age, is she still a girl child?

What age can any man be betrothed to a virgin girl?

How many Christians today practice this doctrine?

RELATIONSHIP DESTROYS LUST

For the unmarried who looks at an unmarried lady, or a married woman lustfully in his heart, what did he commits? For an unmarried lady who looks at an unmarried, or married man lustfully because of his money or handsomeness, what sin did she commits? For the married who looks lustfully in his heart at his own wife, what did he commits? Can't a man look at his own wife lustfully? Can a betrothed man look at his virgin lustfully? Which and which are sins?—the sin of "Eye Touch" is great, but are both guilty? It brings the whole body into darkness! Satan has raised thousands of pornstars on the web. Youths download and access thousands of nudities and the youthful minds are corroded with sexual immoralities and passion that's common to man. Christians often times fall into darkness because of the stumbling bocks of offenses accessible to man via social medias and internet. Satan has raised thousands of pornstars worldwide who are making enough money and pleasures to pull the whole of mankind into darkness through sexual immorality. Their mission is to get millions addicted to sex to their own satanic advantages. The "Eye Touch Strategy" of Satan has made most of his agents rich when mankind access these porn materials online. Christians must stay away from all sins of the "Eye Touch" and face the reality with their dates and wives.

Youthful Sexual Relationship

"Let no one despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word, in conduct, in love, in spirit, in faith, in purity." (1Tim.4:12)

You're not too young to run a family and government. It doesn't require too much of old people's experience to be able to make a good leadership at home and in the State. Youths have the zeal, passion, strengths and limitations older people don't have; this youthful strengths to explore the world around them have made them achieve remarkable things older people cannot achieve. In fact the older people wished to remind their strengths back to their youths. The Christian Religion needs the youthful impacts everywhere, to retain her identity globally. What the youths can do for Yeshua cannot be overemphasized. Yeshua is not against their natural sexual appetites, but encourages them to go into marriages instead of immortalities. Youths are to be modest in speeches, holy in conduct, fall in love, gentle in spirit, courageous in faith and learn the fact that too much of everything which includes sex is bad.

"But if any man thinks he is behaving improperly toward his virgin, if she is past the flower of youth, and thus it must be, let him do what he wishes. He does not sin; let them marry." —Betrothed Relationship (1Cor.7:36)

Most Churches avoid the truth of this Scripture; but hence it's Apostolic, it cannot be avoided; though can be subject to misinterpretation. The Scripture means that any man who has a woman who's a virgin; as it's required of every man, they're only engaged but not married. This woman of his engagement is growing into puberty now; she begins to feel sexy, as it must be; so, it's right time to marry her by doing whatever he wishes. Will raping his own betrothed woman who's come to puberty be a sin when he's the right to whatever he likes? Will the use of condoms or other measures be sinful to them? Will sex positions and other kinds of methods be sinful to them in marriage? Hence the husband has the right over the woman's body, to do whatever he likes sexually with his wife, he can enjoy all his fantasies with his wife, it's not a sin. Whatever they do sexually to few extents is not a sin.

"Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice with the wife of your youth. As a loving deer and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; And always be enraptured with her love." (Prov.5:18-19)

What sustains love in the marriage of young people is sexual gratification. This Scripture reveals that young men love sucking breasts at all times more than older men. How's it that males cannot do without sucking females? Marriage alone gives this opportunity to the Saints, and where such liberty is, love grows better there. A man who plays and sucks his wife, causes his love for her and her love for him to be renewed everyday. We just can't remove sexualities in marriage between two opposite sexes. It shows that only a youthful wife is a blessed fountain, and being a loving deer and a graceful doe means there's enough energy in her to withstand whatever you do. Her young deer-like body is always ready to receive her husband's lusts, passions and fantasies however the cases may be. Importantly, a husband must not be too older than his youthful wife. Engagement must be early enough when a woman is a girl. Marriage must be early enough when a woman is in her teen.

Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate. (Ps.127:3-5)

Children are not the reason for marriage but are the fruits of sex in marriage. Some marriages are without children; yet, there's peace and gratification. The reason for marriage is to solve the natural problem of sexual immorality such as mental sex, masturbatory sex, pornographic sex, promiscuous sex, same sex relationship, etc. It's my prayer that your youthful marriage produce it's fruits. Those who go into marriage late regret that they never started this relationship earlier enough. In it, they calculated what those who entered it in their childhoods and teens have gained.

Therefore, marriage is a process by which a boy's parents and a girl's parents, who are mutually in good Christian relationship with one another, give both children who exchange childish friendship and unclear romantic feelings for each other in engagement, to come to live together for life in the future as husband and wife. It's not a matter of ceremony, but a matter of friendship agreement and attachment of the persons involved. This becomes possible through the love each other equally and finally have, till death. Before both unnecessarily decide to undertake any formal marriage to bond their love before eyewitnesses, which is not required. of them by this Church, they have seen the possibility that both can live together for life; else, no formal activity for public acceptance, except on the ground of gold digging, love may not matter. For those who are no longer children but are new to this Church, beauty and the brain only make grownups fall in love at first sight, but those who are not moved by these, are moved by a lady's positive mental attitude, or good character formation. The man with God's Spirit falls in love at first sight; being led or attracted to the woman by the Spirit. This was the case of Adam and Eve in the beginning of opposite sex relationship, Adam fell in love with Eve at first sight, because God created Eve for him through his ribs, and the Spirit of God in him told his body, "This is the bone of my bones and the flesh of my flesh:" (Gen.2:23). For the man that does not have the Spirit, the scripture said, "he that finds a wife, finds a good thing," (Prov.18:22); why will a man possessed with the Spirit be finding his wife instead of knowing who she is, and where to find her? Finding means searching, and one who search has no knowledge of the lady he is looking for among the thousands of women in the world; hence searching involves looking for somebody in the mist of everybody. How can you find her who is in the mist of everyone? Everyone has her own good side and bad side, how can you find her with the qualities that you want? You only find when you are considering the good side of a woman and not her other side, but love at first sight does not consider any formal quality. Adam did not consider the fact that Eve was ignorant of the devil's devices; he did not consider she was gossiping with the devil, which later led to her fall; he did not consider that Eve joined the devil to trick him; he did not consider that Eve disobeyed God and ate that which she was commanded not to eat; he did not consider that Eve having eaten the forbidden fruit wanted him to sin with her. However Eve made Adam eat that forbidden fruit did not matter to Adam until God came and said to him, "Adam, where are you?" This Adam love at first sight was the original system of entering into a relationship from the beginning. Marriage began with Adam and Eve; with them too, opposite sex relationship began, and it all began with love at first sight. In the beginning when God instituted marriage, there were nothing like traditional marriage formalities, white wedding formalities, court marriage and whatnot. There were nothing like dowry and lists containing various items necessary for the pursuance of communal marriage; there were nothing like celebration or ceremony of any sort. In the beginning God did not ordain anybody, man or woman and give them power to join a man and a woman together in marriage, and there is nowhere in the scriptures where it is written that God appointed any man to be an agent of marriage. In the beginning, who did Adam paid Eve dowry to, did he paid Eve dowry? Did God gave Eve to Adam free of charge: without a dowry and long lists? Did Adam throw any marriage party or ceremony as we do today? Did Adam appear before any man of God to take marital vows and before eyewitness? Did he in anyway carried out any traditional marriage formality? Which people, culture and tradition were at then? Which Church did he wedded Eve, tell me if you know? Which court of law did he went and legalize his marriage to Eve? If Adam did not do any of the things we are doing today, yet the holy scriptures confirmed him as the husband of Eve, and the first married people in the world, why do we consider those who are living in the likeness of Adam as sinners? - because like Adam their first father, they have chosen to live in the faith of Adam, asking all men the questions above. If Adam, being scripturally confirmed a married man, and the husband of Eve did not do any of these things we do today to be seen by men as married, what happens to those who have chosen the faith and steps of Adam? Will they be seen too as married, being in the same faith with Adam? Adam's faith is this - God is my provider! God provided him a garden rich with good foods and pure water; place of peace and purity, and more especially, a beautiful wife. All these things He gave him free to enjoy, without asking anything in return apart from His relationship with him. For any man who is in the Second Adam has the same faith with the beginning Adam. Now, in Christ, we have a new Eden where righteousness dwells - the Churches of the Saints, which uphold the marriage system of the first father. Christ has provided for his sons holy sisters in His own Garden of Eden - to marry free of charge, without any payment of dowry to anybody, He being the Head of His own Eden - Church. Just as Eden has God as its lawgiver, so is Christ the lawgiver of His Church. And what is Christ's law? Paul wrote, "Who shall lay any thing to the charge of God's elect? It is God that justifies." (Rom.8:33), underline, "lay anything to the charge," what does the scripture mean by "anything"? Is a single sister not included as a thing that should not be charged in marriage? Does it not mean that Christian parents are not supposed to charge dowries and lists to their son-in-law, or demand for anything, hence he is a member of the faith. Parents should know that God gave them those children free of charge, and freely they should give them to their husbands in marriage. Paul wrote, "He that spared not his own Son, but delivered him up for us all, how shall he not with him also freely give to us all things?" (Rom.8:32). Tell us, which lady is more superior than the Son of God who was given to us free of charge? The Scripture said that, hence God could do that, He has also given the single sister to her husband free without charging the brother to pay a dowry and do other traditional formalities. God has given us free wives in the faith; free worship; free everything. Hence Christ who is our Head was freely given, parents also should behave like God and give out their daughters hands to the brothers without any charge, without fearing your traditions because anybody who is a member of the Lord's body is free from the traditions of his ancestors. I am teaching you a mystery, which may not have been written plainly, but can be understood through all the writtings. Christ is the Head of the New Eden of everlasting life - the Church! All under His umbrella take instructions from Him alone, and not from pagans called our forefathers. For our ancestors who introduced all these traditional systems were pagans in their time, who received instructions from the gods they worshipped; introducting to their various communities all these marriage systems we see today in the world. Now, let me uunveil the mystery, the law of Moses demands that a man pays a woman's dowry; especially a virgin, before having her as his wife, "And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife; if her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins." (Exo.22:16-17). The Israelites received this law of dowry payment from Moses, but it did not originally came through the law, for it has been the tradition of the Gentiles as it is written, (Gen. 34:11-13 KJV) "And Shechem said unto her father Jacob and unto her brethren, 'Let me find grace in your eyes, and what ye shall say unto me I will give. Ask me never so much dowry and gift, and I will give according as ye shall say unto me: but give me the damsel to wife. And the sons of Jacob answered Shechem and Hamor his father deceitfully, and said, because he had defiled Dinah their sister:" Underline, "dowry and gift", what do they revealed? That it was the custom of the Gentiles who are called Sinners or Uncircumcised to take dowry and gifts or what we today call lists; having seen where and when this tradition of dowry and lists began in the Scriptures, we can conclude that Moses borrowed this tradition from the ungodly Gentiles. The tradition of dowry and lists have its origin from the pagans, and the only tradition required by the sons of Jacob was that the Gentiles must be circumcised and then they can have their sisters as wives, and we know that we are the children of Jacob circumcised with the circumcision of Yeshua. Brothers and sisters in the faith, take note: that you are buried in Yeshua, and need not pay for anything under Yeshua's body - the Church. Dowries and lists (gifts) later came into the law of Moses, and we are no longer under the law as it is written in (Rom. 7:4 KJV) "Wherefore, my brethren, ye also are become dead to the law by the body of Christ; that ye should be married to another, even to him who is raised from the dead, that we should bring forth fruit unto God." Friends, we are married to Christ free of charge, and we are commanded here to stay away from the law of sin and death and embrace the law of the Spirit of life, which is in Christ Yeshua the Lord (Rom.8:1-3), and if we stay away, there shall be no condemnation for we all. I am still teaching you the mystery hidden from all Christians, even to some of the Apostles, the hidden secret which my brother Paul taught figuratively; that I explain to you plainly, (Eph. 3:9 KJV) "And to make all men see what is the fellowship of the mystery, which from the beginning of the world hath been hid in God, who created all things by Christ Yeshua:" What are those secrets that are hidden since the beginning? Is marriage one of the secrets? What system of marriage has been hidden from the very beginning? What kind of marriage has God kept secret and now reveals it to the Church? (Romans 16:25-27 KJV) "Now to him that is of power to stablish you according to my gospel, and the preaching of Christ Yeshua, according to the revelation of the mystery, which was kept secret since the world began, but now is made manifest, and by the scriptures of the prophets, according to the commandment of the everlasting God, made known to all nations for the obedience of faith: To God only wise, be glory through Christ Yeshua for ever. Amen." God has kept secret His own system of marriage from the knowledge of all nations; even now, His own system is not known to all nations, but I will tell you. First, how much is the charge of dowry in the law of Moses? (Deut.22:28-29 KJV) "If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; Then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel’s father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days." In the other hand, if he sleeps with a betrothed, both himself and the woman will be stoned to death; if a woman had slept with a man, when she gets married and her husband discovers that she has known a man before he married her, she alone will be stoned to death (Deut.22:15-21). You see, there is no hiding place for any lady under the law; even if she hides now, tomorrow her own husband will expose her, else he is found a breaker of the law of Moses. In the law, any lady that is engaged is married except that her husband has not yet slept with her and pay the dowry of virgins. The law does not consider whether you sleep with her first, or you pay the dowry of virgins (virgin money) first; whichever, comes first is marriage: for without sex, there is no marriage by dowry and without dowry, there is no sex by marriage. Having seen the law, what does the New Testament teach about marriage? (Matt.19:3 KJV) "The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause? And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, and said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.' They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so." Christ taught them something different from what they have already known through Moses - He wanted them to return to the original system. Christ wanted them to understand that Moses own system of marriage by dowry and lists is not the original system; by divorcing wives and marrying another was not the original plan. God kept Moses from knowing the original plan, but let me tell you: Christ wants us to return to the original system of marriage; not only marriage, but everything. Christ showed us how God instituted marriage in the beginning, and by saying, "it was not so in the beginning" it means He wants us to return to the original system of things. When He said, "Have you not read that..." what does He mean? That you should have known by reading the Scriptures! When He said, "for this reason a man shall leave his parents" what reason is that, if you know? Again, "and be joined to his wife," how? Through a marital vow in a Church, or a Court of law? Through what means, the traditional way? But all these were not there in the beginning! There were no money then that can be used for dowry! There were no churches then where white weddings were celebrated! There were no community where clans demand for long lists and ceremony! How did God manage to join them whereas everything we do today were not at that time He originated Marriage? What does He mean by, "and the two shall become one flesh," how? Is it not after they have both "be joined"? And after the "joining", He said, "they are no longer two but one flesh"; and after the "joining", He concluded, saying, "Therefore what God" not man, or anybody, "has joined together," naturally, "let not man separate." How does this "joining" takes place naturally, hence God is a Spirit? How does He God being a Spirit do the joining? Does He need to use human efforts in the process? No! God has established a natural act that makes a man "be joined" to a woman; that act, Paul revealed in (ICor.6:16-17) "Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For "the two," He says, "shall become one flesh." Bond by defloration, "But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit." What does the Apostle mean by "Or do you not know"? Is it not that the believers have been acting contrary to what he supposed that they should have already known, yet they act as people who are walking ignorantly? What does he mean by, "joined to a harlot"? Is it not to have sex with a harlot? Does it not mean that the word "joined" is "sex", and "be joined" is "to have sex"? With who? Yes! With anybody! If you have sex with a virgin, you are married to her; if you have sex with a harlot, you are also married to her. It doesn't matter the state of the woman, whether she is holy or not does not count, what matters is the act of one flesh - sex! This is the mystery! Marriage is a state of being "one body" or "one flesh", and only sex has God permitted to act as an agent of marriage. Sex was that original system of marriage from the beginning. What does it teach? That any sister who is not a virgin is married to the man she has given her virginity; that any brother that have sex with either a sister or an unbeliever is married to her; that Christians stay away from sexual immorality, not understanding the purposes sex was created by God; that sex is not just physical but spiritual also; that it matters not if you pay for it, its purposes cannot be annulled. Paul made us understand the mystery that was kept secret since the beginning - sex is marriage. God does not look at the money you have spent on her, or given to a harlot to buy sex, He looks at the act. If sex does not mean anything to God, virginity will also mean nothing to Him; but we see both in the Old and New Testament that He God commands our women to kept their virginity until we are married. A virgin according to the Apostles is a woman that is not married; if she is no longer a virgin, it means that she is married, and this is the difference between a wife and a virgin: a virgin is unmarried (have no sex with a man) whereas a wife is married (have had sex with a man). If she is not a virgin, the man who has deflowered (had sex) is married to her; if she is not, the man who is engaged to her will deflower (have sex with) her whenever both desire to be married (have sex) - and if they be married (have sex), they did not sinned (1Cor.7:25-28,34-37). Now, are there not sisters who are not virgins who are unmarried? They, having had sex, or be married in secret, still consider themselves unmarried. God forbid! Sorry for that brother that marries a sister like this, who have kept her formication a secret, and is remarried to another man. Let her be disfellowship so that the Church is not guilty of lawlessness! For I too, I am a Preacher.

The bible says, "Better is a dinner with herbs where love exists, than a fatted calf with hatred." (Prov.15:17). This scripture simply means that it's better to marry a poor man who loves you than to marry a man because he is rich whereas he doesn't love you. This scriptural expression, "a dinner of herbs" figuratively represents a poor family life; while, "a fatted calf" represents a rich home where only money speaks, and without love saying a word. Any home, office, church and whatnot that love doesn't exist will surely tie apart. There is too many troubles and let-downs anywhere love is absent. Love suffers long and it's kind; love doesn't envy the rich; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; doesn't act rudely, doesn't seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; doesn't rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails (1Cor.13:4-8). Nobody wants to suffer nowadays; everyone wants to be rich, even babies. Really, we can see that marriage which is 'one body' is to have sex (1Cor.6:16). To "be joined" to a prostitute is "to have sex" with her using or without a condom. This singular act is marriage to God and to all spirits. Or don't you know that sex is simply marriage? That to have sex with anybody is to marry the person, whether a prostitute, a virgin, a bitch, a sugar mummy or whoever? You may ask, "But I have "made love to" a number of women, does it mean that I am married to them?" To sinners and the false teachers, sex is not marriage, but to true Christians with the knowledge of this truth, it is. Now, know that you are no longer ignorant because you know now; when you don't know, God overlooks but now instructs you to repent and believe that marriage is sex, whether free or not.